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The Pretty Soul

Pretty Heart, Pretty Mind, and Pretty Soul


The Pretty Soul

Pretty Heart, Pretty Mind, and Pretty Soul


How I triumphantly overcame a life of internal conflict, deep brokenness and a demoralization of the soul...

Let me share this, “No matter where you are in life or what your circumstance God can use you right where you are.  You don’t have to wait until things are perfect to do good works. Often times, it is those who find themselves in the darkest of hours and the most painful of spaces that are led to move and inspire lives."



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Pretty Soul Mafia

Pretty Soul Mafia

About us

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the introduction

Our mission:  to lead and mentor with grace and wisdom


Our vision: To support, to encourage and to  inspire women via a e-mentoring/leadership platform using The Pretty Soul's Leadership/Mentorship Models. To embellish the soul through cultivating grace and wisdom through the deep understanding and practice of emotional intelligence (pretty heart), intellectual intelligence (pretty mind), and spiritual intelligence (pretty soul)


Our purpose:  to plant seeds and cultivate the greatness within, through the preservation of the soul

Our philosophy:  "You are more than the visual reflection in the mirror.

    You are wisdom.

                  You are grace

                               You have spiritual gifts

                               You have the capacity of intellligent thought.

                               You have the power of reasoning

                               You are the master of your emotions

                               You can retrain your mind to be successful

                               You can harness the power of a new story”


True and real beauty is not to be conformed to conventional media standards.  It is your mental and moral qualities that define true beauty.  It is the instinctive nature that can be seen through your interactions with others.  It is the attitude you carry throughout the day and the impact you have on the world around you.  Your outward appearance is an external feature and often times can be measured by symmetry, complexion, weight and shape but these features are not what define true or real beauty. If we are not genetically inherited in a way that matches a perfect appearance the world tells us we should change. 

We see a lot of young people today turning to plastic surgery to meet unrealistic expectations as to what the world and Hollywood deem beautiful. A popular reality show The Kardashians is a great example of this.  They are very open in their choice to use plastic surgery as a way to alter their physical appearance. I am not opposed to plastic surgery that isn’t the reason for me sharing this viewpoint. I am sharing this because it doesn’t matter what you change on the outside you can still suffer from low self worth, esteem and a poor self- image.  Real beauty is on the inside and is more important than appearance. Real beauty is in the reflection of your soul and is based on your emotional, intellectual and spiritual qualities.  “You don’t need butt-lifts, face-lifts and boob-lifts you need a soul-lift. (Sister)”

It is my personal belief, that if we embellish our souls and design ourselves to be the women we aspire to be on the inside our self-confidence, self- love and self- acceptance will improve. Not only will we begin to see this transformation in ourselves but also others will see it in us to.  Everything changes when you have an internal soul shift.  E-V-E-R-T-H-I-N-G

This can have a direct impact on the trajectory of our lives and our happiness.  When we begin to cultivate those seeds of greatness within us, focusing on our emotional intelligence, our intellectual intelligence, and our spiritual intelligence we will create a more fulfilling, loving and meaningful existence.  Our divine destiny will begin to unravel and we will begin to walk in alignment with our life’s purpose.  We will have an impact on future generations and leave a legacy of love.  Our entire lives will change we will know a new freedom and have more positive experiences with the world around us and we will inherently become a Prettier Soul


When we begin to cultivate those seeds of greatness within us, focusing on our emotional intelligence, our intellectual intelligence, and our spiritual intelligence we will create a more fulfilling, loving and meaningful existence.
— Marie Sealy
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Grace and Wisdom Leadership

Grace and Wisdom Leadership

Inspirational Pictures and Quotes/The Pretty Life

Human Suffering/Oppurtunity for Love and Growth

Human suffering is one of our greatest gifts it allows us to know love, be love, and show love.  Many people have experienced tremendous adversity from great catastrophic natural disasters, terminally ill diseases, severed family ties, a loss of a loved one to a deep, intense emotional brokenness. Sometimes we can prepare for our losses, and other times life throws us unforeseen hardships.  These circumstances can create a feeling of powerlessness that largely contributes to the way we perceive Human Suffering.  Everyone processes harrowing devastations differently.  There are some who are not equipped to endure such immense sadness they allow it to paralyze them immobilizing them spiritually and emotionally.

 One of the areas of my life that I have experienced human suffering is the loss of my parents.  A senseless murder took my mother, and my father unequipped to deal with life's uncertainties died along with her. Much of his unhappiness could be contributed to the fact that he suffered a grave mental disorder and a spiritual malady.  It is not often that I share the specifics of their death because I am not someone who allows herself to replay this story or imagery over and over continually.

 As a young girl, I would see my friends with their mother, and on some level, I felt cheated of the experience to know a mother's love.  I was angry with God, and I never understood, how this could be his plan for my life.  "What kind of God are you to leave me to navigate my way through this life without a family?' I had no siblings, and without a mother and father, I learned to be independent very early on.  

In my early childhood I lived in foster care, and in my later childhood, I went to live with a very strict religious grandmother until I was the age of twelve. It was during this time that I would begin forming my belief systems, core values, moral compass and understanding between good and evil.  My grandmother always sent me to church on Sundays, and I am so grateful she did.  Attending Sunday service gave me the opportunity to learn about what was ethically and morally correct.  During this time I formed a relationship with God.

My relationship with God has always been deep and meaningful.  Even early on, I would spend long lengths of time talking with him and sharing my most intimate struggles.  My personal spiritual experiences are nothing less than a miracle; I have felt and seen the presence of God.  Not everyone shares the same spiritual ideology, and this has contributed too much divide in the world.   My motive for sharing this with you is not to convert you to believe in one faith over another but to share a little of my own experience with God.  Today, I am independently studying world religions, and I believe that every person deserves to experience their own truth.  

 I was very unhappy during the time I lived with my grandmother.  She wasn't very warm or loving, but now as an adult, I have a deeper understanding that she loved very differently.  She was a modest woman of limited means, traditionally domestic, very intelligent, she enjoyed reading books and worked at a phone company for a good portion of my childhood.  She did the best she could with what she had.  

Today I am so very grateful that I had someone to instill in me good manners and who encouraged me to exceed in school.  It would be just the right amount of discipline to teach me how to align myself with my goals and execute them with focus.  

My grandmother might have lacked in warmth, but she made up for it by instilling in me courage, strength, and perseverance.  It was this rigid and strict environment that enabled me to set standards and learn and use discernment.  Having been raised with Christian values, traditional morals and a standard of good ethics does not always mean you will stay pure, innocent and sweet. However, I do think it lays a good foundation in life because our moral compass is always being tested.  

My austere grandmother and strict upbringing would work to my benefit later on in life.  I was a very difficult young girl, and it would be a long journey before I would surrender to my divine destiny.  

Attempting to navigate the world at a very young age alone can leave you at a higher risk for unfavorable outcomes in life.  You may find yourself struggling to survive and incapable of living your full potential. It is challenging to live your full potential when you have no idea who you are and what you are capable of accomplishing.  It is astonishing to see just how much of a difference mentorship/guidance can make.  Having someone on your team to help you grow through your failures and acknowledge your accomplishments can make a huge difference.  

Every young girl and young adult woman can benefit from having more support and love.  Having someone to hold up the mirror and challenge you in perspective shifting provides a higher probability of success.  Without mentorship/guidance, young women may inevitably be lead to experience a harsh existence of an internal conflict, a deep brokenness and a demoralization of the soul.  

This was my story.  I was so busy surviving; I wasn't giving myself the opportunity to thrive in life.  People who could positively impact my life weren’t surrounding me because I was not placing myself in nurturing environments. I did not have anyone who genuinely wanted to see me grow and soar.  I made choices that in hindsight I wish I could have protected myself from making. 

 You may find yourself with people who are just as lost as you are on their own journey through life.  "We attract as healthy as we are" and "you are as good as the company that you keep" are two sayings that in my opinion reign true.  I made some compromises.  I took some chances that I am lucky to have lived through, spent a little too much time with people that did not serve me, did things that did not serve me, and held onto feelings that did not serve me. It wasn't until much later in life that I experienced the beautiful art of letting it all go. 

To surrender and to release are two of the most romantic, poetic, and simple graces you can give yourself. Yet, the most profound experiences I have ever felt.  Letting go is an action that has three steps: 1.) Acceptance (surrender: this is what it is)  2.) Forgiving (yourself and others) and 3.) Releasing. (freedom from resistance)  You deserve to allow yourself the grace of letting go.   

 If you are walking in misery, plagued with depression, constantly looking in the rear view mirror, focusing on the tragedy of childhood, standing in helplessness with No desire to change and grow, I got no time for that!   

Being independent at a young age has benefited me in the areas of relentless determination and courage so powerful that perseverance is second nature.  Having lived a life as a wandering child nomad, in foster care, abuse shelters, a ward of the court and in states custody statistically, says the odds are against me.  When we have no one on our side rooting for us, we have to find the dedication, drive, and determination within ourselves to want to excel and be better. It requires self- discipline and praising our own victories.  

It is important to remember not everyone will join us on our walk towards greatness. We have to let go of the people who weigh us down particularly individuals with a victim mentality.  The victim mentality is the least appealing characteristic I find in people.  It is natural to want to reach out our hand when someone is hurting and show them love and support, but I think it is important to remember some of these people are in a state of "woes me" and "I am powerless."  They sometimes share specifics of the past over and over, always telling war stories and how things “use to be.”  Living in the past does not serve you.  Get present and be ready for a spiritual evolution and conscious revolution. We can grow. We can heal. We can change. 

There is beauty in transformation in walking into the Divine Child within you that God created you to be.  A recollection of the past can benefit us in two areas.  The first is remembering fond memories of people whom we love, those life long bonds and meaningful, loving relationships.  The second is learning from the mistakes we have made and to use those experiences of (human suffering) as an opportunity for love and growth. In France, they believe that there are no such things as a mistake instead they view it as an “opportunity to learn.”  We don’t make mistakes during our lifetime, we create opportunities for learning, growing and evolving.  We don't have "bad days"  we have "character building moments."  Those moments will pass, but it is the paradigm shift we have internally that is long- lasting.   

People sharing their painful memories and constantly in a state of powerlessness will weigh you down.  There is a time in place for confiding trauma, and you prepare for that time and place.  You can begin with making sure you are confident in your own walk.

Someone who just unloads all their problems of the world on you may feel better after, but think about how it might affect you. We have to keep our well full.  "We can not drink from an empty well."   Sometimes people are unaware that their painful memories can negatively impact people on an emotional level.

I am not referring to people who genuinely need the love and support of friends, family, and professionals. There are appropriate times to share intimate, painful memories.  We all have a story.  It isn’t the story that matters it is what we do in spite of the story.  Dwelling on painful memories of the past and replaying the woulda, shoulda, and coulda does not serve us.  

I have never been a big fan of psychoanalytical therapy.  Re-living and replaying memories like childhood trauma can be harmful to the spirit.  Acceptance isn't always easy, and it may take awhile but the heart is resilient, and people do have the ability to heal and move forward. Holding onto things can cause deep-rooted resentment fueled with bitterness and anger.  

You have to minimize your time around those individuals because they will drag you down if you let them.  This (the idea of supporting someone who is unable to let go and grow)  doesn't mean that we are not to be compassionate, loving and supportive people when our friends are facing difficult times.  This means you must learn to practice discernment and protect your energy daily.  We need to be encouraged, inspired, embraced and motivated.  We need to surround ourselves with people who uplift our spirits, ignite our passions and support our dreams.  

There may be a significant amount of individuals in your life that will genuinely not be happy for your success; they may minimize your accomplishments, or envy you and not acknowledge your accomplishments at all. Don't let this stop you or allow it to somehow determine your worth.  "You are an anointed, divine, beloved "Child of the Most Highest God" born for greatness!" You keep on going down the path of greatness and one day that greatness will be your contribution to the world. You will be in a position to be there for someone else and leave a "legacy of love." 

Some people have the delusion that, by you being brilliant, filled with an abundance of light and love, somehow dims their own light.  Those are the people you have to let go.  I like to call those people the vaper souls because they can vape out your light and literally suck the happiness right out of you, if you let them.   No drama, no bad vibes and no lives settling for mediocrity are my creeds.  Although this hasn't always been my story, there were times I was living a life that was completely and totally incongruent with who I wanted to aspire to be, but I had no idea how to change directions.  

The friends I had chosen for myself were not living their full potential, and neither was I.  I found myself desperate for love, engulfed in fear, guilt ridden in shame and couldn't find joy and pleasure in things that made most people happy. There have been times in my life when I have stood in the grips of loneliness and allowed the bitterness of not having a mother or a father break my spirit. If you are someone who grew up in foster care or lost your parents very young, or you are an orphan, you can probably relate to this... 

"You have to learn to be your own mother."

"Love yourself as if you were your own child." Sometimes you don't learn how to do this until you’re much older and forced to because carrying the burden of this type of human suffering can be overwhelming. These conditions can harden your soul, or they can give you so much courage and strength that you will be able to preserve in the most difficult of times. Just know the heart is resilient, and you can either allow the human condition of suffering to break you, or you can allow it to teach you, teach you powerful lessons in self-love that you can grow from.  Lessons that will equip you with the ability to give yourself and others the grace to learn, love and grow. Life is temporary, and it is fragile we are not here for very long so allow yourself the opportunity to let things go that do not serve you. Surround yourself with people and things that feed the human spirit.  

  It does not serve us to continue to dwell on things that are not in our control, things, and circumstances that we have not the power to change.  The only power I truly have is the power of perception.  The power to change how I view human suffering. Today I will choose to see my human condition of suffering as an opportunity for love and growth.

We are all on this earth together doing the best we can do.  We are all going to experience disappointment, failure, and loss.  We will be let down by people we love and admire and visa verse.  It isn't always intentional, we are humans, and we all make mistakes. (opportunities for growing and learning) You will fail someone you love, and someone you love will fail you. There is only one entity that will never fail us.

 I attended my maternal grandmother's funeral some years back, and an old friend of my mother's who knew her quite well shared with me that her favorite shampoo was Strawberry.  This was a significant piece of information since I rarely hear stories of her. 

Some time had passed, and I thought of that conversation.   I went to the store, and I bought a bottle of strawberry shampoo.  I returned home to wash my hair.  After my hair had dried I brushed it and would wrap a strand around my finger placing it under my nose; I would take a deep breath and inhale.  It was somehow comforting to smell my hair with the scent of strawberries.  Looking back, I wasn't sad by this experience I was comforted. I felt a sense of peace and my spirit was free from the infliction of grief or the burden of sorrow. 

Today I have a better understanding of the human condition of suffering. Suffering isn't a condition at all; it is a "choice" a "mindset." We will all experience struggles in life and the feelings that accompany those struggles; feelings of pain, grief, and sorrow. It is okay to have brief moments of melancholy there is romance in sadness, but we don't have to allow it to consume us.  We can channel our painful experiences in a direction that will allow our hearts to heal and create an opportunity for love and growth.  



when you begin to soul shift through deepening your connection to the Divine (God) and the practice of prayer, mindfulness training, meditation, journaling, creative visualization listening to the whispers of intuition, dream visualization, observing the observer, dialogue and personal mastery you aquire wisdom and the ability to have a glipse into your own soul. 




Spiritual Warfare/ The Thoughts we give power to

An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life...

"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. 
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

"One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.

"The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. 

"This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, 
"Which wolf will win?"

The old chief simply replied, 
"The one you feed."


A Spiritual Relm/ What is Spirtual Warfare?

For we do not wrestle agaisnt flesh and blood but agains the rulers, against the authorities, aganist the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12 ESV)

Spiritual warfare is the struggle to have life in this material world reflect God's loving coherence.  When we are consciously aware of God's love and Abiding in his Spirit we are more likely to make choices that are favored by God.  It is a war because there are unforeseen forces in the spiritual realm that are working vigorously to thwart man preventing him from reaching God.  Although God is in charge he gave us human will.  Our will is constantly being tested by the material world.  The material world consists of Power, Money, Fame, Greed, Lust, Jealously, Pride, and Hate.  These are powerful influences that surround us daily.  Unless we are being strategic with our prayers and can recognize the deception, lies, and temptations of the enemy these dark forces will continue to grow gaining momentum, holding our lives hostage and in bondage. These bondages could inevitable lead us to our own self-destruction. 



The different beliefs when defining Spiritual Warfare 




We come into this world on an inhale and we die on an exhale and every breath there in between is the sweet melody of a soul serenade.
— The Pretty Soul
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Annoited Divine Loved

I am Favored and Protected 

Annoited Divine Loved

I am Favored and Protected 

Practice the Power of I am

It isn't in the story of our brokenness we find power.  We find power in the actions we take to learn and heal from the brokenness.  The only time I share my testimony or painful events of the past is when I believe it may be able to serve others.  Don't talk about the brokenness. Talk about the healing.  Don't go around saying "I am broken." "I am hurt."  "I am alone and  "I am worthless."  Words are like tiny little seeds when you are confirming defeat and giving the pain power that pain will grow.  Learn to speak blessings over your life.  Learn to walk into the person you were created to be.  Speak of transformation. Speak of healing.  Speak of complete and total restoration.  "I am happy, I am healthy, and I am whole."  "Practicing the Power of I am"  has changed my life.   When someone asks you, How are you? Share with them, "I am happy, I am healthy, and I am whole. ~Amen









What is Wisdom?

What is Wisdom?


Wisdom describes an Aspect of God it is a theological concept. The concept is Being of the World (Secular) vs. Being of God (Godly wisdom) Wisdom is one of the seven Holy Gifts.

The Holy Gifts are:  1.) Wisdom 2.) Understanding 3.) Counsel (Right Judgment) 4.) Fortitude (courage) 5.) Knowledge 6.) Pety (Reverence) and 7.) Fear of the Lord wander and awe. 

Wisdom is having the ability and the capacity to love spiritual things more than things of the world such as, material objects, money, fame, and vanity. It means the desire to understand God and it is the theological virtue of Faith. 

It is a deep knowing and understanding that we live as followers of Christ.  A person with wisdom and understanding is not confused by the conflicting messages in our culture about the Christian way to live.


native american

"Among our ancestors there were some values that were held very high among them humility, compassion, courage and generosity but all values lead us to the one we considered the greatest wisdom." (Joseph M Marshall III, The Lakota Way)

  1. Wisdom always takes the path of reason
  2. A wise Person never speaks before immersing himself or herself in a long and thoughtful moment
  3. Wisdom is the most effective antidote to fear and the absence of reason
  4. The wisest man or woman is the most humble. 

In Native American Cultures God is known as The Great Spirit.  The Great Spirit reveals himself through nature. They believe that people must have generosity in their hearts and that all living things in the world are equal even an ant.  We are all ants to the Great Spirit.  Native Americans respect Mother Earth and understand that the earth does not belong to humans (the two legged ones) but that humans belong to the earth.  Spirituality is interconnected and there is symbolism in animals.  "We are to respect all living things, the four legged and the winged ones and live in Sacred Harmony.  The Great Spirit gave us a responsibility as Guardians of the Earth." (Wisdom Keepers)  






Other World-Religions

The Five Wisdoms of Buddhism. The five wisdoms of Buddahism are five kinds of wisdom that happens when the mind is pure from the five disturbing emotions.  The emotions are anger, jealousy, pride, attachment and ignorance.  The Five Wisdoms attained are, 1.) The bare non-conceptualizing awareness"  2.)  "Mirror like awareness"  3.) "Awareness of Sameness" 4.) "Investigative Awareness"  and 5.) "Accomplishing Activities"  The Buddhist scriptures on wisdom teach that a man who has acquired wisdom  will be endowed in good bodily conduct, good verbal conduct and good mental conduct.  Buddhism is not thought of as a religion but a philosophy because it does not involve a God or Gods.  The name "Buddha" means the "Awakened one"  

pretty soul homework: Look up, What are the sutras? and what are the 4 noble truths? 


Wisdom in Hinduism is considered a state of mind and soul.  The mind in soul according to Hinduism is where a person achieves Moksha (emotional freedom and liberation) Moksha is one of the four aspects/goals of human life.  The Four aspects and Goals of Human Life are: 1.) Moksha 2.) Dharma                             3.) Artha and 4.) Kama

The state of mind and soul when one achieves Moksha means they have acquired wisdom through emancipation, liberation and release (state of suffering).  According to Hindu epistemology moksha refers to freedom from ignorance, self- realization and self- knowledge.  It is the freedom from the cycle of death and rebirth. 

  • Moksha: emancipation, liberation, release (state of suffering)
  • Dharma: virtuous, proper, moral life
  • Artha: material prosperity, income security, means of life
  • Kama: pleasure, sensuality, emotional fulfillment


"A wise man never tells of his wisdom" is a belief in understanding in Wisdom.  One can understand Wisdom through three methods. 1.) Reflection (the noblest way) 2.) Imitation (the easiest way)  3.) Experience (the bitterest way)  


Wisdom is construed as adherence to the Three Treasures.  There are three treasures in Taoism.  The three treasures are:  1.) Charity  2.) Simplicity             3.)  Humility   In addition to the three treasures Taoism also believes that achieving Intelligence, Wisdom, Strength and Power can be achieved through: 

  • Knowing others is Intelligence.
  • Knowing yourself is Wisdom
  • Mastering yourself is Strength
  • Mastering yourself is Power


Islam views Wisdom as a Gift.  In Islam Wisdom is deemed one of the greatest gifts humankind can enjoy.  Below is a scripture on wisdom in the holy ancient religious text . 

"He gives wisdom to whom he wills, and whoever has been given wisdom has certainly been given much good and none will remember except those of understanding."   Qur'an, Sura 2


Wisdom is regarded as one of the highest virtues. The word "Wisdom" is mentioned 222 times in the Hebrew Bible.  In Proverbs and Psalms there are many scriptures that urge readers to increase wisdom.  Wisdom is considered and regarded as one of the highest virtues among the Israelites along with "Kindness" and "Justice."  


“No matter what story you tell yourself, your life can change directions, as quickly and as swiftly, as a feather in a windstorm.  Like a feather in a windstorm we will experience having to change directions caused by life’s unforeseen challenges and uncertainties. Although, we may not have control what happens in our lifetime we can choose how we stand in the face of adversity and all that comes our way.  Like a feather in a windstorm we too can land with grace.” 
— The Pretty Soul
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Child of the Most High God

"You have seeds of greatness within you and you are powerful beyone measure....."

Child of the Most High God

"You have seeds of greatness within you and you are powerful beyone measure....."


The Art of Grace

The Art of Grace

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a women is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.”  Audrey Hepburn


Audrey Hepburn is an icon of Beauty.  She is thought of as one of the World’s most legendary movie stars and is known for her style and grace.  She was an extraordinarily gifted actress, a lovely lady and very esthetically attractive but her appearance and physical beauty is not the reason we remember her. We remember Audrey because of her character, her nature and her disposition.  She was graceful, humble and kind.  Audrey Hepburn had a pretty heart, pretty mind and a very Pretty Soul. 


 “ Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire become what you respect, mirror what you admire.” Anonymous


Let us examine this quote and apply it to our lives.


Attract what you Expect:  your thoughts are powerful they are vibrational and they can create revolutions, movements and global change.  If thoughts are that powerful I would begin practicing and choosing to hold ones that are uplifting and will create ripples of love and strength.  The thoughts you focus on are what can manifest in your life. You are deserving of good things. Expect good things.


Reflect what you Desire:  you may be one of those women who have a criteria for an ideal mate. I know I am guilty of this and ladies none of us are perfect but if I want a man who is a writer, philosopher or an intellectual I would begin to read more books. If you want a man who is in perfect fit condition with an eight pack with a nice derriere, then I would encourage you to learn how to meal prep and hit yoga or a Pilates class a couple times a week.  Be the reflection of whom you desire. 


Become what you Respect:  Surround your self with motivated, inspiring and loving people.  Choose a mentor that can add value to your life.  We all need mentorship.  All the world’s leaders has a mentor an accountability partner someone who will ignite passion in them or encourage them to stay the course when the road gets tough.  When I see someone whom I respect I learn from him or her.  I read their books, attend their webinars, listen to their podcast and study them so I can learn and grow.


Mirror what you Admire:  Audrey Hepburn is someone whom I admire. I am also a huge fan of black and white films and I love how the women carried themselves in Old Hollywood.  Being graceful, poised, polished and refined are examples of actions I admire.  So I do my best to be a good example, by remaining mindful of my actions, authentically exhibiting proper etiquette, decorum, and polite behavior. This can be mirrored by sitting up straight, listen without interrupting, remember to say please and thank you, choosing appropriate dinner conversation (being mindful of my company when choosing a topic), and always having good table manners.  These are all good habits but the most important behavior is how we treat others. 


  “ Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire become what you respect, mirror what you admire.” Anonymous

“ Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire become what you respect, mirror what you admire.” Anonymous

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a women is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart; the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
— Audrey Hepburn