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August 20, 2018


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Balancing the Soul

Online one on one leadership and mentor  programs are available. there are two programs to choose from.

 

The First Program
Introduction to Balance the Soul
San Diego, CA 92037
(858) 922-6935

The Second Program
Introduction to Serenade the Soul
San Diego, CA 92037
(858) 922-6935

 
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Legacy of Love


Who is The Pretty Soul?

Legacy of Love


Who is The Pretty Soul?

Pretty Heart (emotional intelligence), Pretty Mind (intellectual intelligence) and Pretty Soul (spiritual intelligence)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

WHO IS THE PRETTY SOUL?

Marie Sealy is a city girl with deep country roots.  SHE CURRENTLY RESIDES in Sunny Southern California.  She is the proud momma of a seven-year-old Yorkshire Terrier named Bentley Ashton.

Marie Sealy MSOL, is the Founder and CEO of The Pretty Soul, LLC a digital media brand, e-mentoring and leadership platform.  The Pretty Soul, LLC is not just a company she says, "It is a "calling" a great responsibility entrusted to her and her life's purpose."  She believes her vision will leave a "Legacy of Love" for future generations and change the trajectory of women's lives that need guidance and support. 

Marie graduated from the University of California San Diego where she earned and obtained a Bachelor of Science Degree in Psychology.  Initially, when she began her academic career, her goals were to become a Forensic Psychologist.  After attending a course in psychological profiling, specifically profiling the minds of serial killers, Marie strongly felt and knew the dark intensity of this work was not suited for her.  She quickly rerouted her studies taking more courses in behavioral, biological, social and cognitive psychology. Other significant courses of study during her Undergraduate work that left an impact on Marie, was the course Drugs, Society and Human Behavior.  While Marie was studying Behavioral Pharmacology, she was also in therapy for G.A.D. (Generalized Anxiety Disorder)  Marie struggled with depression and anxiety.  She began to self-treat her symptoms with massive doses of alcohol.  It wasn't until her senior year of college that she saw the harmful effects of her approach to self-treat.  She was guided and introduced to a spiritual program that would change her views on holistic wellness practices and psychology forever.  
 
In, 2010 she attended UCSD Extension where she completed all certification coursework for her C.A.D.A.C.C. (Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor) This program was personally transforming and provided in-depth insight into areas such as Dual Diagnosis, counseling clients in chemical dependency and mental illness.  Other significant required course work that Marie held a genuine appreciation and understanding for was the course, The Theory and Practice of Counseling in Psychotherapy and Group Facilitation.  By studying the different modalities, approaches, and techniques, she was able to extract the most remarkable and noteworthy methods, inspiring her to develop a therapy model of her own.  

Marie was rigorous, dedicated and committed to her studies. Her pursuit was tenacious, but it would be a long road before she would realize her "Divine Destiny."  Her journey would be filled with perilous struggle and enormous adversity but getting knocked down was not to her detriment. She would persevere she didn't know it at the time, but she was in the midst of what separates the great from the average.  Her hustle through the hardships and struggles was moving her forward.  Excellence takes time and achievement takes patience.  It is her belief that struggles are the very thing that determines your level of success.  For example, if you have the encouragement of a supportive family, financially and emotionally it may be easier to pursue your dreams.  You may reach your goal relatively easy without the burden of being #Self-Made.  However, "Victory" is the product of the "Fight."  The struggle will test your endurance, and if you can rise above you can overshoot your potential and land among the highest of achievers. 

Marie was introduced to 12 step facilitation at a very young age and then again during adulthood.  She saw the benefits of adopting a spiritual approach to treating addiction.  Other modalities of significant interest to Marie was M.E.T. (Motivational Enhancement Therapy) and CBT. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)  She is a huge fan of both Albert Ellis and Aaron T. Beck the two pioneers that laid the groundwork for Donald Meichenbaum's CBT Model.  Cognitive Behavior Therapy is the assumption that a reorganization of one's statements will result in a corresponding reorganization of one's behavior.  Behavioral techniques such as operant conditioning, modeling, and behavioral rehearsal when applied can create a beneficial effect in the way in which a person processes subjective thinking and the role it has in their internal dialogue.

Cognitive Behavioral therapies are a structured psycho-educational model.  Marie thinks a lot like Albert Ellis and believes that people contribute to their psychological problems, as well as to specific symptoms; by the way, they interpret events and situations.  

Marie acknowledges that these were all great leaders and pioneers in the field of Psychology but there is one person Marie holds much regard, respect and is largely inspired by, his name is a Mr. Viktor Frankl, an existential psychiatrist.  
 
"Life ultimately means taking responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which constantly sets for each individual." Viktor Frankl
 
The reason why Marie holds such high regard and admiration for Viktor Frankl is not only because of his contribution in the field of psychology but mainly because of his own personal experience.  She relates to the way he thinks because of her own powerlessness with being an Orphan.  She shares in the attitude that we have a responsibility in how we interpret our situations.  Viktor Frankl is an existential psychiatrist, who stresses the relationship between freedom and responsibility and insists that ultimate freedom can never be taken from us because we can at least choose our attitude toward any given set of circumstances. 
 
In support of this Frankl (1963) shares a story where he draws from his own experience in a German concentration camp. In this experience, Viktor Frankl was held prisoner and stripped of every semblance of outward freedom. He contends that even in a situation of such extreme powerlessness, people can ultimately be their own master because the attitude they assume toward their suffering is of their own choosing. (Corey, 2012)
 
Marie admires the strength and courage of Mr. Frankl and when she is in the face of fear she reminds herself of his remarkable story.  There is "True Greatness" in the spirit that can take responsibility for their own internal well-being.  Our circumstances do not have to be the detriment to our happiness.  We can grow through the pain and discomfort, assume responsibility, and grow with relentless determination.  

In the summer of 2010, Marie felt privileged she was granted the award of attending the Summer Clinical Institute for Addiction Studies, School of Medicine Psychiatry, UCSD.  It was such an honor to be studying at UCSD School of Medicine among the most brilliant minds in the field of Psychiatry and Psychology.  Marie was attending lectures with the echelon in her field of research.  It was during this time that she had her first experience with Mindfulness Training.  She met Dr. Steve Hickman, Ph.D. when he came to speak about his book, "Where are my feet?" He led a class in Mindfulness and Marie remembers feeling a surge of relief, less anxiety and the ability to focus more clearly.  Marie will never forget that summer because it was her first dose of Mindfulness.
 
Simultaneously, while taking CAADAC courses, Marie enrolled at a nearby Yoga Studio and decided to explore their Yoga Teacher Training Program.  It was during this time she would be introduced to the practice of Meditation and the Yoga lifestyle.  Her strong country roots and her belief system in Christianity strongly discouraged other religious practices. However, Marie did not see the harm in exploring yoga for the health and wellness aspect. At the beginning of her yoga journey, Marie was more interested in the physical benefits of the yoga lifestyle.  

Marie has always been open-minded and curious in understanding other worldviews.  It is embracing diversity and practicing respect that can heal and restore peace to the world.  Learning to suspend judgment and appreciating the rituals, customs and belief systems of other world-views can contribute to one's emotional intelligence.  Marie believes it isn't only mind expanding but heart expanding.  

Marie became fascinated with the teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism.  These teachings are the primary foundations of Yoga.     At the time Marie had a female mentor who worked in the field of yoga and meditation. She was invited to attend a three-day Meditation and Ayurvedic retreat at The Chopra Center.  The Chopra Center offers various programs that focus on health and wellness.  The center's known for their work scientific contribution in the area of consciousness. One of the types of meditations practiced at the center was called Expanded Awareness.  She wanted to deepen her knowledge, wisdom, and experience, so she began a journey, staying committed to her personal spiritual growth.  Her first experience with meditation was called a Primordial Sound Meditation. 

Primordial Sound Meditation uses sound in the form of Mantras to go inward.  The word "Mantra" means instrument or vehicle of mind.  "Mantras" interrupt the flow of meaningful thoughts allowing our attention to expand, more abstract levels of the mind until we eventually slip beyond thought into silence.
 
From 2010 -2014 Marie attended three Retreats at The Chopra Center. Her favorite speaker was a man by the name of David Simon.  David Simon spoke about Love.  She kept the lecture notes and from time to time takes them out to read and reflect on his message.  Other significant people who influenced Marie are Byron Katie, Caroline Myss, and Deepak Chopra.
 
At the beginning of 2014, she attended her third retreat called Seduction of Spirit at The Chopra Center.  She had an opportunity to meditate with Mr. Deepak Chopra and 500 attendees. One of the exercises that were monumental in her transformation was a practice in soul gazing. The meditation guest went out into the courtyard and formed a circle.  There was an inner circle and an outer circle.  The participants faced each other, and a bell would sound every 2 minutes.  The outer teammate would move clockwise while the inner circle moved counter clockwise.  The participants would look into the eyes of every soul in front of them.  The experience gave Marie an insight into her own humanness. She also had the ability to see God.  Looking into the eyes of hundreds of people is eye-opening literally. (L.O.L)  Looking into God's most beloved creation and being vulnerable enough to allow someone to see into you is humbling.  Acknowledging and seeing herself in others gave her a feeling of "oneness" and "interconnectedness."  It was a "God Moment" for her.
 
Carolynn Myss was a guest speaker that year and is the Author of "Anatomy of the Spirit." Carolyn Myss is a voice in the field of human consciousness, spirituality, and mysticism. She writes about the seven stages of Power and Healing and claims to be medically intuitive.  According to spiritual communities, she has a Ph.D. in energy medicine.  Although, main stream academic communities have heavily scrutinized the work of Carolynn Mass even calling it fraudulent.  Marie does not agree she believes, "where science ends God begins."  

"Is there a God?" and "Do angels exist?" are sensitive topics when talking to the science community. During her lecture at Seduction of Spirit, she spoke about having Archetypes. Marie appreciates Carolynn Myss's contribution to understanding the spiritual realm and believes her work is valid and has adopted a similar approach to understanding people through archetypes with her work in Sacred Harmony in Animal Spirits.   
 
"To love yourself, truly love yourself, is to finally discover the essence of personal courage, self-respect, integrity, and self-esteem. These are the qualities of grace that come directly from a soul with stamina." (Caroline Myss, 2014)
 
Another significant experience that would shape Marie's leadership/mentorship style and create a soul shift in Marie was listening to a lecture presented by Byron Katie. She remembers feeling deeply uncomfortable doing the work of Byron Katie.  Byron Katie asked questions like "Who would you be without your story?"  Marie had always identified herself with being an orphan and having a murdered mother, so this was a huge breakthrough for her. She wasn't ready at the time but eventually ended up going back to work in this area, and now in her Leadership practice, she emphasizes how important it is to recreate a new story for yourself.  A new story that encourages people to think of their adversity/misfortune/difficulty/pain/tragedy
 
 As "things to overcome" focusing on the perseverance instead of the hardship. 
 
"Thought is harmless unless we believe it.  It is not our thoughts, which cause suffering.  Attaching to a thought means believing that it is true without inquiring.  A belief is a thought that we've been attaching to, often for years. (Byron Katie, 2014)
 
At the time Marie's dream was to become a published author with a Ph.D. She knew this would be a difficult endeavor considering she lacked resources and support. There is no greater pillar than God, and with relentless determination, she made the declaration to go back to school and earn her Masters Degree.

  Marie's extensive background in contemporary psychological theories, personal spiritual experiences, and academic accomplishments could have supported her to pursue a career as an LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) or an MFT (Marriage Family Therapist) but her "Divine Calling" intervened. 

She had no idea at the time, but divine intervention would change the course of her life forever. She met someone who encouraged her to look into a Business course.  Marie knew very little about Business and began to research areas of study like Business Psychology and Organizational Psychology. Organizational Leadership has some similarities to Organizational Psychology, so she did her due diligence and ended up enrolling in a Business Degree at National University, San Diego. 
 
In the winter of 2014, Marie's decision to pursue a Graduate Degree would come to fruition. She had spent the summer of 2014 thinking about what Masters program would best put her on the path of the life she aspired to have.  She thought about how heavy life could be in the field study of Clinical Psych and contemplated and imagined what her life would look like if she took a completely different approach to helping people.  She began to grow increasingly interested in Business and Leadership. So, even though she had a background in Psychology, she took an entirely different route and is so happy with her decision to have acquired a Business Degree in Organizational Leadership.
 
It was not an easy decision to make when weighing her options between leadership vs. psychology. Psychiatry and Psychology have a Diagnostic Criteria, these fields of study focus solely on the Psychological Factors. The Psychological Factors that contribute to the mental, physical, and emotional condition.  Marie believes it is important to understand mental illness and mood disorders, but she realized in her journey that not everyone could be treated with traditional modalities.  There are internal factors such as, bio-physiological factors and genetic dispositions that contribute to different types of emotional and mental instability, but sometimes it can be as simple as adopting a more holistic approach and focusing on the spirit.  
 
Not everyone needs medications, CBT, DBT, MET, RET, and Psychoanalytical therapy but everyone can benefit from investing in one's emotional intelligence, intellectual intelligence, and spiritual intelligence.  Leadership and Mentorship are not aimed at treating or diagnosing people; rather it is created to intrinsically move people in a direction that will create optimal life rewards.
 
Marie is a big supporter of the study and work of neuro-behavioral-endocrinology because it is this field of study that provides an in-depth understanding of how hormones affect behavior.  She believes that this field of study is particularly important in understanding women since the fluctuation in hormones can create debilitating, unstable and variations in mood.  Marie knows the importance of understanding potential variables that affect women's health. 

Post-partum for example is a depression after giving birth.  However, it isn't the birth of the child that caused the depression.  The hormonal changes triggered an episode of depression in vulnerable women.  Most of these women had already suffered several previous episodes of depression. Other things to consider when working with a female population are working with the ladies over 50 who may be entering into menopause and experiencing sadness, depression, or a loss of interest in activities.  Sometimes having some education surrounding this area can benefit your demographic so that you can be helpful and suggest a Doctors visit.  Some women who are going through this can begin taking an estradiol supplement, which has been proven to help with relieving depression. Marie has a genuine compassion for women and their mental well-being. 
 
Marie has feelings of reverence towards the field and study of Psychology and Psychiatry.  She has a deep empathy and understanding for cases that need extra love like people who suffer from the severe psychosis such as hallucinations and delusions.  She has a special admiration for the clinicians who work with families battling with schizophrenia and understands the need for more programs specific to this cause. There are cases and mentees that Marie knows fall outside her level of expertise.  
 
However, there are those cases of women who did not have a strong family unit, compassionate guidance or a healthy loving support system, that often creates enough stability, even if for a short time, that can significantly impact the trajectory of their lives.  
 
Marie believes that you can rewire your brain for happiness.  She believes that thoughts are powerful and it is our thinking that can shape who we become.  If we are speaking blessing over our life and confirming healing, we are more likely to be healed.  She doesn't support the idea of reaffirming ailments.  

Marie enjoys and listens to Joel Olsteen sermons often she believes that his message of proclaiming victory and not defeat over one's life can begin retraining the mind to win.  She believes that sometimes people are diagnosed and labeled with terms that could be to their detriment. There could be potential backlash for her views on labeling but share her own experience on this topic when appropriate.  She believes that some cases would probably heal from their symptoms of depression and addiction much more quickly if they are not being labeled and put in a box.  She believes that people may continue to identify with their psychological disorder and therefore continue to meet those expectations unconsciously.  

She believes there can be a total and complete transformation and healing if people are willing to do the work.  That work begins with observing the thoughts we think.  Learning to choose and hold words mentally that empower, encourage, inspire, motivate and bring positivity to the forefront. Positive thoughts can redirect feelings and ultimately create new actions, and if practiced long enough those actions will turn into a modification of behaviors.  

Marie believes in affirming, confirming, and proclaiming victory from a stance of prevailing triumph and shares that this is part of her prayer strategy. Strategic Prayer is something Marie lectures on and shares with her Mentees. 
 
I DECLARE I will use my words to bless people. I will speak favor and victory over my family, friends, and loved ones. I will help call out their seeds of greatness by telling them "I'm proud of you, I love you, you are amazing, you are talented, you are beautiful, you will do great things in life." This is my declaration." (Joel Olsteen)
 
"I DECLARE a legacy of faith over my life. I declare that I will store up blessings for future generations. My life is marked by excellence and integrity. Because I'm making right choices and taking steps of faith, others will want to follow me. God's abundance is surrounding my life today. This is my declaration." (Joel Olsteen)
 
Marie encourages women to work with their therapist and says this is not to replace the work they do.  Marie's leadership/mentorship platform offers and provides a safe community where women can learn and grow to love themselves finding solutions and strategy practices that ultimately guide them on a path towards their dreams.  

When people are inspired, encouraged, and supported in their accomplishments, they feel happier. The success of accomplishing a task contributes greatly to the mindsets and behaviors in individuals. When people begin to focus on their achievements and not their failures, when people see the good in themselves and not the bad and when people are doing esteemable acts such as making an impact or contribution, they will begin to believe in themselves on a soul level.  Knowing someone believes in you is a big motivator. When people begin to believe in themselves, the winning mentality is the product. 

There are other causes that traditional modalities and meds will not treat like spiritual maladies. Even though people have a reward center and can be conditioned like Pavlov's Dog, Marie believes people also need and desire, to be inspired, to be motivated, to be encouraged, to be loved, to be led and to have their spirit fed.
 
There is a significant difference between counseling and leading/mentoring Marie feels Leadership Models can arouse, excite, ignite, inspire, motivate and fuel passions that stimulate people, giving them an opportunity to investigate and examine the lives they are leading.  

Marie's Leadership Models uses contemplative meditation, self-reflective techniques and dialogue to gently shift girls towards their most authentic, genuine and harmonious self.  

She believes that everyone including herself benefits from having a source of mentorship.  Building a relationship with a mentor can offer guidance, accountability and fuel change by igniting their passions. Marie believes that there is nothing nobler than supporting others by aligning them with their life's purpose, dreams, and divine destiny.  

Marie was blessed to have a few mentors along her path and believes that it was these relationships that helped in guiding her just enough to change the direction in her own life.  She believes that young girls are predisposed and can be significantly and negatively impacted by today's social norms.  Marie hopes to be a voice of influence for young women who may be placing themselves in emotional harm's way by compromising their values, morals and true nature.  

Marie would like to see the norm become a nature that is pure of corruption and a soul untainted by the world's unrealistic standards of what defines beauty.  She wants to support and see women flourish into the best version of themselves through enhancing their emotional, spiritual and intellectual intelligence.  
 
 By the year 2014, Marie had undergone several major paradigm shifts.  These internal shifts had prepared Marie to be a transparent channel for love and wisdom.  Her spiritual transformation gave birth to a deeper soul awakening, and she was moved to begin her journey toward her "greater calling."  She had dedicated a significant amount of time cultivating spiritual wisdom, and she felt ready to learn "How to Lead."   

Her Leadership studies began in March 2014.  Her first course was Leadership 602 an Experiential Action Learning Course in Groups and Teams.  Harvard University where Marie's professor Sara Jones Ph.D. had attended her Master's program developed the course.  Marie was very excited to study under a professor whose curriculum is practiced at the Ivy League University.  Gaining Expertise through Experiential Learning can help manage conflict in-group Dynamics.  

Experiential Learning is a four-stage cycle. The first cycle you begin engaging in bx (behaviors) on the basis of your current action theory.  The second cycle assesses the consequences of your actions through reflection and feedback. The third cycle, reflect on the effectiveness of your actions and reformulate or refine your action learning.  Finally, the fourth cycle is when you implement your revised action theory by engaging in a modified set of bx (behaviors). The four-stage experiential learning process is based on a set of 12 Principles.  

The Principles are as follows:
Principle 1. Effective Experiential Learning Affect the Learners Cognitive Structures (action theories), attitudes and values, perceptions, and behavioral patterns. Principle 2. People believe more in the knowledge they have discovered themselves than in knowledge presented by others. Principle 3 learning is more effective when it is an active rather than a passive process. Principal 4 new action theories, attitudes, and behavioral patterns cannot be accepted using a piecemeal approach/ one's entire cognitive-affective behavioral system has to change. Principle 5 it takes more than information to change action theories, attitudes, and behavioral patterns.  Principle 6. It takes more than firsthand experience to generate valid knowledge. Principle 7. Behavioral changes are temporary unless the action theories and attitudes underlying them are changed.  Principal 8 perceptions of oneself and one's social environment must change before changes in action theories, attitudes, and behavior can take place. Principle 9 the more supportive, accepting, and caring the social environment, the freer a person is to experiment with new behaviors, attitudes, and action theories. Principle 10 for changes in behavioral patterns, attitudes, and action theories to be permanent, both the person and the social environment has to change. Principle 11 it is easier to change a person's action theories, attitudes, and behavioral patterns when he or she accepts membership in a new group.  Principle 12 A person accepts a new system of action theories, attitudes, and behavioral patterns when he or she accepts membership in a new group. (Tuckerman, 2014)
 
All men by nature desire to learn. (Aristotle)
 
This was not the only conceptual theory that Marie valued or benefited from in her Leadership 602 course. Marie was assigned a team during her course. Later the team was known as TEAM FIVE. At the beginning of the team, Marie alienated herself because she was so independent and was uncertain of the competencies and skill set of the other members.  She often would take charge and fully complete the task independently, even though the exercise was about team building. This course required Marie to begin learning to delegate, allocate and share responsibilities with other team members which required a bit of trust on Marie's part.  Marie is independent and used to doing things the "right way."  Having a take charge and get things done right mentality was not a mindset Marie's peers appreciated. 

She befriended a rather stringent German lawyer named Alf 20 years her senior.  She respected Alf because he demonstrated understanding, reasoning, judgment, and comprehension and was an incredibly insightful strategist.  Whatever Alf shared with her she attentively listened.  
 
The Group went through the five stages. The fives stages are forming, storming, norming, performing, and adjourning.  During the storming stage, Marie and her teammate Ryan would have a serious disagreement or argument creating tension within the group. Finally, Marie and Ryan approached the incompatibility and quarrel using conflict resolution. Through this experience, they were able to reach mutuality and build trust.  They had finally understood what it was to align themselves and formed a genuine camaraderie.  Team-five showed team spirit. Interestingly enough, when Marie was preparing her research/literature review for her Thesis project, she read about a study that suggested that conflict in teams could generate more creative ideas if they work through the storming stage.  At the end of the course TEAM, FIVE was the highest performing and effective team. They were recognized and acknowledged by Professor Sara Jones Ph.D. and rewarded a generously sized bag of delicious chocolate candies.   
 
As for Alf and Marie, they were the most unlikely of friends but bonded through the course. Marie read some excellent scholarly articles on Servant Leadership suggested by her Grad school mentor.  She was even able to include some of the research in her Literature Review.  He also played a key role in her personal growth.  He shared an exercise in perspective- shifting. An exercise Marie uses to this day.  The exercise encourages a person to be completely mindful of their behaviors by watching himself or herself from a bird's eye perspective. Once this is mastered, you can then observe the observer.  Marie teaches this in her Leadership practices. 
 
At the end of the course, Marie gave Alf an Eckhart Tolle Meditation CD, and Alf gave Marie the gift of observing the Observer. Leadership 602 was just the first course in a two-year journey, and Marie was excited to be part of a community of scholars and eager to participate, learn and grow. 
 
Another significant experience that strengthened Marie's character and development was Leadership 605, Conflict and Power Dynamics with Professor Roxanne Kymanni Ph.D.  Marie and her Graduate course mates were to use an integration of their knowledge, skills, and abilities and then required to design, conduct, and evaluate effective conflict resolution and negotiation practices. 

The Leadership Course topics included interpersonal and intra-group conflict resolution; persuasion, problem-solving techniques and decision-making in conflict resolution; overcoming bias, anger, and retaliation. During the course, Marie developed leadership and dialogue skills used to navigate high conflict situations and given tools to be able to detect conflicts as potential clues of organizational challenges.
 
A required text in Leadership 602 was a book written by Diane Musho Hamilton, and according to Marie, this book was wonderfully engaging, perceptive and useful. The title of the book is, "Everything is Workable" and it uses a Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution.  Marie teaches this in her Leadership practices, and the techniques from this course are taught in her Leadership Workshop, Serenade the Soul. 

 Marie began to form her Transformational Leadership style.  Transformational Leadership defined as representing the moral high road of leadership.  Transformational leadership involves a unique bonding among leaders and followers- emotional attachment, respect and trust form the basis of these approaches. (Avolio and Yammarino, 2002)
 
Other areas she extensively researched and studied included Competing Values Leadership, Collective Leadership, Integral Leadership, Global Leadership, Ethical Leadership, Spiritual Leadership, Tribal Leadership, Emergent Leadership, Collaborative Leadership, Conscious Leadership, Mindful Leadership and Wisdom Leadership.  

Marie wrote her Thesis on Wisdom and Leadership: Strategies for Shifting Collective Consciousness in the Learning Organization by Cultivating Wisdom through Dialogue and presented it to the faculty of the School of Business and Management of National University on July 11, 2015
 
Her favorite piece of literature in Business comes from the book "The Fifth Discipline, The Art of The Learning Organization.  
 
"Mastery will not develop as long as we hold un-empowering beliefs." (Senge, 2006)  
 
The Fifth Discipline wrote by Peter Senge is one of Marie's favorite text. Peter Senge is an American systems scientist who is a senior lecturer at the MIT Sloan School of Management, co-faculty at the New England Complex Systems Institute, and the founder of the Society for Organizational Learning. 
 
"He sees the reality of his past, how the choices he made steadily whittled away his compassion and increased his self-centeredness.  He sees the reality of his present, especially those aspects of reality that he has avoided, such as Tiny Tim's illness. And he sees the reality of his likely future, the future that will occur if he continues in his present ways. But then he wakes up. He realizes that he is not the captive of these realities.  He realizes that he has a choice.  He chooses to change." (Senge, 2006, pg. 150)
 
This excerpt was found in the Chapter on Personal Mastery the first of the five Disciplines.  The Five Disciplines are Personal Mastery, Mental Models, Shared Vision, and Team Learning.  
 
Another favorite book noteworthy to mention that made an impression on Marie written by William Isaacs is Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together.  In Part two he discusses building capacity for new behavior, meaning we can relearn how to communicate.  According to William Isaacs, there are four practices when we are actively engaged in during dialogue. (A collective conscious process) The four practices are listening, suspending, respecting, and voicing.  
 
This practice can be viewed in a short video clip with Krishnamurti and David Bohm. David Bohm is the Author of the book, On Dialogue. The Video Clip is called The Future of Humanity. 
 
Marie earned and obtained a Masters of Science in Organizational Leadership from National University, San Diego the summer of 2015. Marie graduated with Honors from her Masters Program and has currently defined her Leadership style as Grace and Wisdom.  

 Shortly after Graduate School in 2015. Marie started her first company called Futurephase.  She served as COO, HR Advisor and an early stage investor in the start-up company, which aimed to transform the global power industry.  Marie's research proficiency, dedication, and team leadership served the mission well, and she was able to close her first angel investment round.  Futurephase is currently undergoing an entire rebranding and will continue to evolve in being a leading marketing firm that will create a meaningful social impact.  
 
Marie is a visionary and a pioneer, and her projects include Marketing for Women Entrepreneurs who own start-ups or small to mid-size businesses. She is a strong supporter of Entrepreneurial Women and inspired to break through glass ceilings.  
Marie is a lifelong learner, a 21st Century Leader and according to the Myers- Briggs Scale, she meets the criteria for the INTJ Personality Type.  (Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, and Judgment) INTJ's form just 2% of the POP and women of this type are rare forming only 0.8% of the POP. 
 
She took some time off from school but is planning to attend her Ph.D. in Leadership Studies.  Marie thrives in intellectually stimulating environments.  She is looking forward to exploring, understand, and critique theories, concepts, competencies, and values/ethics related to leadership. 

In closing, "Who is The Pretty Soul?" was written to convey an authentic intellectual description by offering a lens into Marie's emotional, intellectual and spiritual development. This insight depicts the complexity of what happens in the process of restructuring a person's soul. Spiritual transformation happens when wisdom is integrated into all the facets of an existence creating a sustainable internal paradigm shift.

I have learned a certain amount of humility in realizing that learning is endless and to improve one's character you must welcome challenges, learn to suspend judgments and foster change. (Marie Sealy, MSOL)
 
 

 

 

 


a brief look into the Early Years

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Marie in her Early Years

“The Pretty Soul, LLC is a “calling” it is a great responsibility entrusted to me by the only father I have ever had.  “The big G.”  It is my hope that I will leave a long lasting impact and a “Legacy of Love.”  I lost both my parents when I was very young and I was placed in foster care and child abuse shelters.  My mother was murdered and my father suffered from a grave mental disorder and a spiritual malady.  I had no brothers or sisters. I lived the later part of my child-hood with a grandmother who had a very strict and moral virtue. My grandmother planted seeds of greatness in me; she spoke of God often only she called him Lord and Savior. Later in early adolescents, I found myself without parents, guidance, mentorship or a home. It was during this time my best friend in the world Shon Jenkins introduced me to Alisha, a family that would later significantly change my perception and world view. They took me in and placed me in a private Christian Academy.  I took courses in Bible I and Bible II and it was these courses that I found a unparalled love for Christ. This family gave me hope when I had none. It was one of two families that opened and shared there home with me. My other surrogate family and a key player in my growth was with a woman named Tricia a mother-like figure who would pray over me and share stories and teachings of Christ. Tricia made beautifully handmade Native American Jewelry and she worked in the spiritual area of Deliverance.  I was very blessed to have these loving people care for me in my early adolescents and it was at this time I realized that I had a spiritual calling. I was emancipated at the age of 16 and have been navigating my way through the world and in life ever since. This was my truth and these were my circumstances. It was a very arduous and perilous journey with great suffering and enormous adversities.  Underneath the pain lied my creativity, passions, intuition, and imagination but it was my discipline, determination and dedication that would make my dreams come into fruition. Dreams of  being an entrpreneur and being in a position to earn a Doctoral degree.  I am here to share with you that you can preserver in the face of adversity, that the human spirit is fierce, you have seeds of greatness within you and you are powerful beyond measure.” (Marie Sealy MSOL, 2017)

The Leadership/Mentorship Models Below were developed after years of study in the fields of Leadership and Psychology. By Marie Sealy

....... A new story that encourages people to think of adversity/misfortune/difficulty/pain/tragedy
as “things to overcome” focusing on the perseverance instead of the hardship.
— Marie Sealy, MSOL
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Intelligence


Pretty Heart, Pretty Mind, and Pretty Soul....

Intelligence


Pretty Heart, Pretty Mind, and Pretty Soul....

 

Pretty Heart, Pretty Mind and Pretty Soul

 To have a pretty heart one must practice gratitude, humility, grace, compassion, generosity, kindness and love. To have a pretty mind one must be mindful of what they are exposed to, they must choose thier enviroment, what they read, who they thier spend time with and intellectually challenge themselves daily. To cultivate the soul one must spend time alone, observe thier thoughts,  suspend judgement and listen to the sweet soul serenade. 

 

 
 
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Emotional intelligence

Emotional Intelligence requires effective communication between the rational and emotional centers of the brain.  Some of the areas that are distinctive and measured aspects of emotional intelligence are self image, independence, leadership abilities, relationships, career happiness, personal competence and social competence.  

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Intellectual Intelligence

The importance of enhancing your intellectual intelligence is to give you a good sence of your overall intellectual capabilities.  Some areas to focus on enhancing your cognitive skills are critical thinking, reasoning abilities, quick learning capability and problem solving.  

Join The Pretty Soul Book Club

(read a book every 6 weeks and attend our live webinar to discuss your feelings, thoughts and personal perspective.)

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spiritual intelligence

Spiritual Intelligence goes beyond the self it is the interconnectedness of all things. It is the Understanding and Knowledge that we all play a significant role in the Universe.  It is finding "Wisdom" in Nature and in the "Quiet space in our own Soul."  We can commit to our spiritual growth acquring intelligence through the practice of self awareness, self reflection, dialogue (metta), mindfulness, and meditation.   

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